Most here will say to spend up big on a decent grinder and even try the plunger route. A good grinder can later be matched with just about any machine. The Presso would serve you well I am sure.
As to the "steamed milk" there have been discussions about heating milk in the microwave verses steaming and some people think that milk heated in the microwave is just as good, if not better.
You can use google to give you more search results on the coffeesnobs site if youre after more information in regards to what Im talking about! ;)