When you hit the road you will struggle to find coffee that isnt made by a button pusher and so your quest for an answer to this question is not going to easy. What you are after I agree shouldnt be so hard but when workers (generally) arent passionate about their product and even when they are their training isnt as good as it should be this isnt going to add up to the coffee you are chasing.
I am a fan of the coffee you order, what my order generally starts with is a question about what the base for the coffees are. The answer to that dictates what I order, if it is knowledgeable then I ask for a double ristretto base, if I get a "dunno" look then I generally ask for tea!! ;D
Good luck with your quest for great coffee, you should have dropped me a pm to let me know you were coming through wagga I would have fixed you up with a good coffee.