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    What would you do?....you make the choice. Dont look for a punch line,there isnt one. Read it anyway. My question is: Would you
    have made the same choice?

    At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning
    disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that
    would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:
    When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature
    does, is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn
    things as other children do. He cannot understand things
    as other children do.Where is the natural order of things in my son?
    The audience was stilled by the query.
    The father continued. I believe that when a child like Shay,who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child. Then he told the following story:

    Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were
    playing baseball. Shay asked, Do you think theyll let me play?
    I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay
    on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were
    allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.
    I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, Were losing by six runs and the game is inthe eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and well try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning. Shay struggled over to the teams bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.

    In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shays team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came
    his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.
    In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shays team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was
    on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat. At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?
    Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didnt even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball. However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shays life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.
    The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.
    As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground
    ball right back to the pitcher. The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game. Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first basemans head, out of reach of all team mates.
    Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, Shay, run to first! Run to first! Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline,wide-eyed and startled. Everyone yelled, Run to second, run to second!
    Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball . The smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitchers intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-basemans
    head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home. All were screaming, Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay. Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, Run to third! Shay, run to third! As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, Shay, run home! Run home! Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.
    That day, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face,the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world.
    Shay didnt make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

    AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO THIS STORY:
    We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought,but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate.The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed i

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    Quote Originally Posted by 172231500 link=1231381923/0#0 date=1231381923
    AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO THIS STORY:
    We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought,but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate.The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed i
    You are right, I did hesitate. I dont like to offend. But I dont like to lie even more.

    Would I make the same choice? No.
    In fact I found the story crude, vulgar and obscene.
    Maybe this is because I grew up in an oppressive religious family. Dont know but I find blatantly lying to someone, even to make them feel better, disgusting.

    When my wife asks me "Does this look good on me?" and it doesnt, I say "no". Why? because I respect her enough not to lie to her.

    I tend to offend some people. I struggle to find words, sentences that are honest but dont offend. But I find this easier then lying. I am probably offending you now! :-?

    Do I think that you should suppress your thoughts not to offend me? *>:(ABSOLUTELY NOT! >:(
    I would find the fact that you would stop expressing yourself, like the above, because you thought you would offend someone REALLY, REALLY offensive.

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    I read somewhere a long time ago somewhere by author unknown that "tact is a form of hypocrisy" which is what you are getting at.

    I put that into practice and said what I felt. After many years of applying this policy, I have to admit that "honesty is not the best policy". Sometimes, telling how it is is not the best way.

    The recipient of your honesty may well already know the cold hard truth but enjoy the uplift of a kind or tactful comment, even if they know it isnt sincere.

    The message behind this story is that someone has had the chance to experience something uplifting that they would not have had the chance to experience in your cold, hard, face-the-facts world. And it wasnt just Shay who benefited from it. Many who observed or shared the story also got some feel-good from it. I did.

    In the unwritten book of relationship rules, there are recommended standard responses to questions such as "does my bum look big in this?". "Yes" is not one of them. You can still give a tactful response without disrespecting them.

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    Re: Shay

    I am teary now

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    "Do I look fat?" should always be answered immediately and confidently with a "No."

    This wont work, but all other responses are worse. This is common knowledge, and I can only wonder at the sort of woman that has the self confidence to cope with honest answers, because I havent met one.

    The Shay story is terrible, not because of any dishonesty, but because of its overwhelming American mawkishness.

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    I would agree that honesty isnt always the best policy... but I think you should always be honest as possible. The story to me doesnt even come close to that.

    I am also fortunate that I have met a woman that strong minded enough to cope with it, so I married her. Lucky me.
    It did take her a while to get used to some things but now she loves it. Why? Because when I do say "Yep, that looks great on you", "What you just cooked tastes great" etc, she knows its true.

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    Re: Shay

    As it was obviously one of the various emails that get circulated, it deserves a Snopes investigation:

    http://www.snopes.com/glurge/chush.asp

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    The Shay story is terrible, not because of any dishonesty, but because of its overwhelming American mawkishness.

    Quote Originally Posted by 656F7A6D6D627670030 link=1231381923/6#6 date=1233621398
    As it was obviously one of the various emails that get circulated, it deserves a Snopes investigation:

    http://www.snopes.com/glurge/chush.asp

    I thought as much

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    This is probably getting into one of those "If you cant say something nice..." scenarios.

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    urgh, more chain email spam junk that is no better than jokes, viral videos or any other type of unsolicited rubbish that shows up in my inbox IMHO. i got a version of this at work a fortnight or so ago.


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    Re: Shay

    Quote Originally Posted by 4B415443434C585E2D0 link=1231381923/6#6 date=1233621398
    As it was obviously one of the various emails that get circulated, it deserves a Snopes investigation:

    http://www.snopes.com/glurge/chush.asp
    Snopes doesnt say it isnt a true story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 566A776C666770656D66020 link=1231381923/10#10 date=1233631529
    Snopes doesnt say it isnt a true story.
    ...nor did I claim it was false

    I just thought it was worth investigating, like anything that gets circulated on the Internet.

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    This story has been around for a long, long, time and dare I say, probably embellished along the way, even to the extent where the young persons name has been modernised from Shaya to Shay.

    I dont understand why these types of stories continue to circulate. If you happen to work in the disability sector, or know someone with a disability, youre sure to have your own personal accounts of the realities faced by people with a disability - some uplifting and others tragic.

    I dont need to read a story like this one to raise my own awareness of our humanity, or lack thereof. Next time you walk down the street or through a shopping mall, count the people you pass. On average, every 5th person will have a diagnosed disability, and those statistics are climbing.


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    The snopes article does have a nice line on celebrating people with disabilities for who they are, rather than who they are not (game winning baseball players), as our bass playing friend would support. (Still wouldnt tell a woman she was fat though.)

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    Cant resist the opportunity to recount one of my favourite lines from an ad:

    "Does my bum look big in this?"
    "Hmmm...yeah but at least it draws attention away from your face!"
    (camera cuts away before male is murdered).

    I wonder what this post says about human nature?

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    "Do these pants make my butt look big?"
    "No. It isnt the pants."

    Anyone who would ask that question is either insecure or already knows the answer... or both.

    Most often the person posing the question is eating a double fudge sundae.. by dipping a cheeseburger in it... .

    Ya... Im in one of those moods this evening. ::)



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