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    Some days you just wonder and ask why...

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    As some may know, I have been doing it a little tough.. Son / Brother and my *Dad *have been having health issues and other family members have recently passed away.

    My Brother in addition to other significant issues, was only recently diagnosed with an aggressive stomach cancer. *Only 30 min ago my mum rang to tell me my dad has also been diagnosed with an aggressive stomach cancer; was admitted today.

    He is an old bushy and has always had a fear of hospitals and after a long chat with 3 specialists; has made a choice of Quality of life over major surgery with little chance of any gain, in time left.. *If we were out bush... He would have left and done a one way walk about; not unlike those he grew up with and spent most of his early years with in the NT.... *

    A couple of months at best.................................. They are suggesting...


    As I wanted to talk to some one - Who ya gunna call... When things get tough ? *

    Mum and Dad.... *But I cant....

    My mum is on her own but has stated she needs some time alone... Tough old girl.. Love her so...

    So I am having a coffee and a lung lolly to calm down... And then off to the hospital to see him and chat about old times.... We will have a laugh and a cry... But no regrets.... *The past is done, the future is unknown; what we have is NOW.

    Thanks for your time and for listening...... If ya have a few words...

    Then; for those of you who have parents around or have others that are close... *Take the time out NOW to stay in touch... *Dont waist them in replying to this post...



    PS. *2 + 2 = 5 where 5 is great Coffee and a good life... *Those dammed twos..



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    Gee AM, I had no idea and am dreadfully sorry to hear that so many of your loved ones are so seriously ill.

    I cant imagine how you must feel right now. I hope you find some comfort knowing that you have many friends here and that we are thinking of you, and your family.

    Take care, and be gentle with yourself.
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    AM...of course Im going to take some time and give some, hopefully, encouraging words to you!

    I can remember a few years back some great words of encouragement were said to me about a certain moment in my life. And yours were amongst those. All those words that were said to me, I printed out and keep them in a special place along with many others who sent words.

    Words are important as they are often a reflection of our hearts. I pray you have the great words to share with your dad as he sees this illness out. What a brave and courageous man! Give him a kiss on the cheek from me!

    Love you AM!

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    Sometimes life deals pretty tough cards AM.

    Our thoughts are with you :(

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    Ah, poop - sometimes life is just crappy in so many ways, and you just keep on getting blow after blow at the moment. :(

    You know I am only ever an email away at present, and six weeks away or so from being able to share a lung lolly, coffee and shoulder with you - and you will always have my support in any capacity I can give it to you at a moments notice.

    A HUGE virtual hug to you and your family.

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    AM I know Ive not been around these parts long but youve struck a cord for sure - my dad is of the old bushy school too. Spent this arvo sitting chatting with him on the porch he built up home. Ill make sure to make more time with him (and the rest of the family) and be wishing for you and your dad to enjoy what you have... Theyre a rare breed, that capable, strong bush-bred type. What an honour to know one. So sorry for your bad news.

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    My father in law was a tough selfish old bugger who regularly upset a lot of people including me early on - he committed suicide at the age of 70 - I had came to respect and admire and then to love him.... and I never told him.....

    Go tell those people that you admire and love how you feel and what they mean to you.. it may just help all of you....

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    Keep up the contact AM, at one time it got too hard for me, and before I knew it, that person was gone.

    Im sure that a lot of us here, and in your "non-virtual" life, will keep you in mind. I know I will.

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    Mate if you need a hand with anything at all, you know how to reach me

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    So, so sorry to hear all that mate.... :(

    Were all here for you old mate, anytime.....

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    Thats a real tough break AM, you just have to keep getting stronger for your family and know that our best wishes are with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 173A3E323F530 link=1258021807/9#9 date=1258037232
    So, so sorry to hear all that mate.... :(

    Were all here for you old mate, anytime.....

    Mal.
    Asked if he wanted a drive out west... He went quite for a while and changed the subject...

    He loved a trip I took him on some time ago - Morton Island... So offered that and he sort of smiled and said that he could not, as he did not want to catch more fish than me :D

    I will keep trying...

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    AM I feel for you,
    We here have been going through a situation with my father-in-law where he caught an influenza that shut down his lungs, hence his kidneys and liver, was put into an induced coma for 10 days and was expected to die.
    Well just when the doctors were writing him off the old buggers condition started to improve and he is now on the road to recovery.
    This made me think about how lifes too short to not tell those close to us how we really feel, and that this time we got a second chance.
    All this with some not as close as your own parents.
    I cant imagine how you must feel.

    Kind Regards
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    Hang in there Michael, sometimes we get dealt a really bad hand but there are better hands to come.

    Just yesterday I heard that my 43 year old nephew has an aggresive brain tumor and has four months to live. Hard on his wife and three teenage kids.

    Its times like these that our thoughts turn to the hard questions of life - is there a God - does He care?

    I believe God does care and wants us to ask Him to take over.

    God bless mate.




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    Theres not much I can add to whats already been said. Hang in there mate and spend what time you can with him and know that were here for you if theres anything we can do.


    Java "Life is short, live it to its fullest." phile

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    I read this last night but couldnt find any words (insert joke at my expense here).

    My father suffered a heart attack in front of me quite a few years ago now. Despite having obtained my first First Aid certificate at age 13 (did my latest renewal last year) my attempt to revive him was not successful.

    I felt a lot of guilt until I got the autopsy report and read how clogged his cardiac arteries were.

    It was a sudden loss.

    We all pass eventualy; thats life.

    Take what time you have left with him to leave the both of you with no regrets.

    My thoughts are with you.

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    AM Im very sorry to here about your DAD one of the harder roads we have to go down in life..

    I lost my DAD when I was on holidays and never got to say good by,So spend as much time as you can with him Mate I know you will lets hope it,s a long time..

    GOD give you strength....Gra..

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    I hope the rest of his days are long and happy. Or, if the prognosis is really grim, it is a quick and merciful end.

    Him, being an old bushie, it might be a case of "you couldnt kill him with an axe"

    I reckon youre a bit of a chip off the old block and youll know what he wants. Just be yourself. Im sure he doesnt want a fuss.

    Im sure he would like the drive though - one day. If you dont have to be anywhere one day, just go.

    All strength to you and your family in this difficult time, AM.

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    My most sincere best wishes to you AM.

    I cant imagine it will be easy over the next few months, knowing whats ahead. But they are months you have nevertheless.

    Enjoy your time together.

    E76.

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    AM, real sorry to hear that mate. Knew a few old blokes out home who were just the same...thinking of family, theyd tough it out and do their best to not allow family to feel too bad. Salt of the earth.

    My grandfather was like that. Even though Alzheimers got him, it was made easier remembering things like going shooting with him for a week at a time, the things he taught me, and having extended chats over a beer with him while he was still able. Yeah, it was tough at the end...but just a little easier becasue of those close times. I would rather have a bit more pain at the end because it meant that there were so many times where the closeness compensated.

    Our thoughts are with ya mate.....generous folk receive it back multiplied, there will be many well wishes coming your way

    God Bless

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    My thoughts and best wishes go out to you AM.
    I lost my stepdad (of 57 years) 2 years ago to stomach cancer, he was a tough nut and hard worker all his life and treated me as if I was his own son, the last few weeks were the closest times I spent with him, he was never an emotional person but we spent some special times which I will cherish.
    Hang in there mate.....................

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    I lost my wife to cancer less than 3 years ago. She was only 39. As terrible as that was I will always treasure the times we spent together when she was sick and I was caring for her as those are the tiimes of special closeness that can never be matched.
    Best wishes and try to find that inner strength that I believe we all have.



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